EMPATH - SUPERPOWERS

You have the best superpowers as an empath.

As an INFJ, (Myer-Briggs categorisation), I listen to my intuition and am pretty good at intuiting everything outside of me. What I mean by that is that I watch, listen and feel what is going on around me and can intuit specific outcomes that most often happen. My success rate is 85 - 90%. I’m not boasting. If you are an INFJ you would concur that this is a fact. Maybe? lol.

My superpowers are amazing when it comes to other people (meaning not me). I can hold people’s feelings, I can view them in their amazingness when they are at their worst and hold them in their own goodness and light while they sort things out for themselves just by me being a witness. I can feel and transmute the most horrible feelings for others. I’m great in a time of crisis. I work really well in an unstructured environment when many things are thrown at me at once. There more the chaos, the better I am. When there is an ‘unsolvable’ problem, people come to me. These and many more examples are the superpowers of an empath.

Let’s take this deeper.

Now, when it comes to gut instincts and self intuition. I suck. As a form of safety, I stay in my head and as far away from my body and feelings as possible.

Feel other people’s stuff, no problem.

Feel my own feelings, are you crazy?

Low and behold, that is were my best superpowers lie.

As I learn to drop into my body, to feel my feelings, and to be the person to myself that I am to others, I am actually becoming something truly amazing.

I can write this now, because I’m not there yet but I’m on the path.

You see the thing with empaths, without making a sweeping accusation 🤞, is that we don’t want to sound arrogant, self-righteous or even narcissist.

Sometimes when I’ve blurted out my intuition it can come across like that because of my own internal certainty. That’s all. That’s the discernment because only I know myself the way that I do. No one else.

So as I learn to drop into my body, to feel my feelings, to do things for myself especially art. Art, btw, keeps the anger at bay for me and makes it more manageable to have self-compassion towards.

Empathic people are one of the most self-critical and judgemental people I have ever met.

As a child, I decided that I would never make a bad impact on anyone in my life due to the scar that other people’s trauma had on me.

To that little girl, I now say as the adult woman that I am now,

“Beautiful Holly, that is so kind and generous of you to do something so wonderful as that. The thing is, it’s absolutely impossible to not have a bad impact on anyone.

First of all, you would never do that intentionally.

Secondly, how other people take what you do or say is actually on them. They have their own stuff.

Lastly, in relationships conflict help us to evolve.

Most importantly, focussing on not having a negative impact on people’s lives also takes you away from seeing all of the amazing and wonderful things that you do.

You can’t have one with out the other, at least not in the world that we live in now.

I am hopeful that it will change but not in our lifetime.”

(As. write this, I feel such sadness for that little girl. If only she had someone to talk to about this at the time.)

This feels like the right spot to leave this… for now.